Realistic films : Gharonda (1977)

Recently my idea of escaping the reality has become watching old Hindi cinema particularly amol palekar or Jaya bahduri’s milli or guddi type movies. Everything in these films look distant yet so close .. I feel the world still has those problems, situations or people but their idea of happiness & relationships has drastically changed.

Well cutting that short– I saw “Gharonda” today. Apart from some brilliant songs likes “Do deewane sheher Mei” & “tumhe ho na ho”, this movie is way ahead of it’s time. I feel the way the movie showcases an urban earning couple planning their lives & lifestyle is “so this generation”, the couple book a house before even getting engaged is not so usual for that time. 

The movie starts on a easy tone when chaaya on her first day of office meets sudeep, who helps her at work & is friendly. Next, both fall in love & decides to get married. They book a house by talking a loan for paying the first installment. 

Chaaya is a young 18 year old, independent, free spirited. She lives in a very humble house with her 2 brothers & a mother-like sister in law happily. She wants to support his younger brother’s education, who aspire to study abroad. 

Sudeep is a middle class 28 years working Chap, who is living in a lodge with three roommates. He has dreams of living in a house of his own, having a family, loves his girlfriend, calculative.

Sadly, the scheme turns out all fraud leading to loss of money & shattered dreams of young hearts. Our hero realises, what a mean world! & in frustration tells the girl to marry Modi. 

Modi, the boss- 50 years, millionaire, heart patient, very interested in Chhaya -turns out, her selection for this job was also based on chaya’s uncanny resemblance to Modi’s dead wife.

Chaya was shown refraining from Modi’s favours since the beginning as she comprehend his intentions. So obviously she’s pissed with her boyfriend. She stays home contemplating her life, May be she realises Sudeep is not the correct guy or modi is not bad either as he is helping his brother with a scholarship to study abroad, irrespective of her not- so- nice attitude towards him. 

A change of heart & she gets married to modi. Now forgetting the past she tries to be a good wife meanwhile Sudeep is under debt, has lost his girlfriend, realises his mistake but too late. Sudeep is depressed. Chaaya’s transformation from sudeeps girlfriend to Modi’s wife is quick she doesn’t seem to fall out of love with Sudeep but accepts her duties as a wife & estrange Sudeep.

The movie somehow confuses me a little when the actress says yes to her boss’s proposal to marry her. May be in a fit of ego? after all his frustrated boyfriend tells her the only way to earn easy money is her getting married to the rich guy. 

In the end Sudeep looks like a loser who resigned his job & is running to other city. Modi aware of the whole scenario asks him to take Chaya with him if she agrees to. (Please note that at this point Modi’s confident that chaaya will not leave him).

 Movie ends on a sad yet optimistic note- sudeep does not board the train as he decides to get back his life on track in the same city on his own. He does not ask Chaya anything & walk past her as if  realises Chaya is only his past now. 
It wasn’t a feel good movie throughout but It has a different vibe, if you have patience for 70s cinema- you will enjoy it 🙂



Deadlines, targets, goals. Being busy is some sort of self worth evaluation nowadays.

“Busy is the new happy”- i read this somewhere recently. It makes me worried – why would that be a thing? Are we scared of our own company or we don’t want to feel too much? Forgetting people for things is understood & well received today because everyone understand “priorities”.
Earn money to save health or save health to save money. Modern delimma! 

I am just venting out because I feel people no longer appreciate idyllic life or balance, they appreciate struggle. 

Key to wellness is not over thinking but knowing yourself better.

Think about the goodness you want, the negatives you want to push away. Busy is not “new happy”, It will never be.

Cherish moments with your loved ones, enjoy your own company. Live. When these moments turn into memories, it feed your soul with a sense of satisfaction- so make memories!

Be content & honest with your work as it makes your living. 

But don’t forget forget – Work is not life, it’s a part of your life 🙂


Why we need a family..

As the year is ending & most of us are spending time with our families. It makes me think how lucky are we who have a family & how important it is for someone to have a bunch of people backing you up (some times ridiculing you) but still loving you in their own mysterious respective ways.

So here are few things to remind myself and anyone reading this – Why it is important to have a family:

1) They choose you. Even if you are a loser, they will still keep you in team.

2) They don’t judge. They may not be able to understand you but they won’t judge you 

3) Food & attention. When you think no one gives a damn, family still asks how you’re doing or are you hungry. 

4) Family cheers you up. When world speaks against you. If the day at College/office don’t go well. When boyfriend/friends are mean or awkward with you. Family always reminds you goodness in everything.

5) unconditional love. You’re smart, Charming or ugly,dull or boring. Family would love you the way you are. They don’t commit to you when you get rich or stand by your side for benefits. They love you because you are part of the gang. Because you are family! 

Mountain girl

I originally hail from the mountains of uttranchal but born and brought up in the city lights, I don’t know much about that feel. Last month I visited tirthan valley in himachal & trust me nothing beats that fresh water, air & gorgeous mountains. The moment I was near them, the connection was instant. 

Valley ❤

A glimpse of my trip to India’s very own Swiss! 

Hope to see you again – sunshine, rivers, mountains& valley! 

Be You.

How many times we are stuck between what we want and what we should do?

Precisely, Just when you are over your childhood, this grave diseased question haunt you whenever you want to be yourself again.

A enlightened poet once wrote in reference with heer-ranjha, a famous misfortuned lovebirds like Romeo & Juliet.. “Dil mei heer liye, aur heer khoje veerane mei.. “

you (ranjha) are looking for your heer in isolated places when she is right in your heart.

What you are so dedicatedly looking for is right inside your heart?

Yes, you have all the answers. You know what you want. You own your thoughts, you define the rights and wrongs, because you write your own story.

You my dear friend however afraid of the problem, have the exact answer for it.